{"id":258,"date":"2021-02-03T14:28:52","date_gmt":"2021-02-03T19:28:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/?page_id=258"},"modified":"2021-12-13T18:09:05","modified_gmt":"2021-12-13T23:09:05","slug":"finding-solutions","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/healthy-relationship-skills\/conflict-resolution\/finding-solutions\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding solutions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class='accordion md-accordion' id='accordion0' role='tablist' aria-multiselectable='true'><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Instructions-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneInstructions-0' aria-expanded='true' aria-controls='collapseOneInstructions-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Instructions<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneInstructions-0' class='collapse show' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneInstructions-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Brainstorm with students about why conflicts arise, and good strategies for solving them.<\/p>\n<p>Ask students to take notes about the steps to engage in when involved in disagreements or conflict:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Identify the issue<\/strong> \u2013 what do we disagree about (e.g. an opinion, goal, belief or resource)?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Listen<\/strong> actively to each other\u2019s side.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Clarify<\/strong> using \u201cI\u2019 messages and a calm tone.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li>Use eye contact.<\/li>\n<li>Tell the person: \u201cI have a problem&#8230;\u201d<\/li>\n<li>Describe the problem or behaviour in a non-threatening way \u201cI think the problem is&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Tell the person how you feel about the problem. \u201cWhen you do this&#8230;I feel\u2026&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><strong>Swap sides<\/strong> \u2013 think about the disagreement from both sides (review step three).<\/li>\n<li>Try to <strong>stay calm<\/strong> until you have a win\/win solution.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Post the brainstormed process and encourage students to review and make use of the \u201cFinding solutions\u201d model in their daily resolutions of disagreements or conflict.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Supplementary-resources-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneSupplementary-resources-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneSupplementary-resources-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Supplementary resources<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneSupplementary-resources-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneSupplementary-resources-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Complementary practice: <a href=\"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/healthy-relationship-skills\/listening\/active-constructive-listening\/\">Active constructive listening<\/a> (Healthy relationship skills)<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Adaptations-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneAdaptations-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneAdaptations-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Adaptations<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneAdaptations-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneAdaptations-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Ask students to think about a time over the past week (or day) when there has been a difference of opinion or conflict, and how they made use of the \u201c<em>Finding solutions\u201d<\/em> practice.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Evidence-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneEvidence-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneEvidence-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Evidence<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneEvidence-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneEvidence-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Adolescent perceptions of their own problem-solving skills influence their experience of depressive symptoms. The ability to confidently problem-solve serves as an insulator against depressive symptoms and aggressive behaviours (Erdur-Baker, 2009; Ozdemir et al., 2013). Activities that allow students to walk through the experience of collaborative problem solving with peers allow them to build confidence for later use.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='References-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneReferences-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneReferences-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> References<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneReferences-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneReferences-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Erdur-Baker, \u00d6. (2009). Peer victimization, rumination, and problem solving as risk contributors to adolescents&#8217; depressive symptoms. <em>The Journal of psychology, 143<\/em>(1), 78-90.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zdemir, Y., Kuzucu, Y., &amp; Koruklu, N. (2013). Social problem solving and aggression: The role of depression. <em>Journal of Psychologists and Counsellors in Schools, 23<\/em>(1), 72-81.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To provide students with ways to find win\/win solutions when disagreements arise<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":677,"parent":192,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"practice-template.php","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[29,47,17,35],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-258","page","type-page","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-daily","category-healthy-relationship-skills","category-promote","category-weekly"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/258","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=258"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/258\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":986,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/258\/revisions\/986"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/192"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/677"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=258"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=258"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhcsecondary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=258"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}