{"id":842,"date":"2020-05-09T01:57:08","date_gmt":"2020-05-09T05:57:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/?page_id=842"},"modified":"2021-09-01T11:30:45","modified_gmt":"2021-09-01T15:30:45","slug":"finding-solutions","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/healthy-relationship-skills\/conflict-resolution\/finding-solutions\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding solutions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class='accordion md-accordion' id='accordion0' role='tablist' aria-multiselectable='true'><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Instructions-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneInstructions-0' aria-expanded='true' aria-controls='collapseOneInstructions-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Instructions<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneInstructions-0' class='collapse show' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneInstructions-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Brainstorm with students about why conflicts arise.\u00a0 Discuss and identify when it is necessary to seek the help of an adult.<\/p>\n<p>Create a list of steps to engage in when involved in disagreements:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Identify the issue<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 what do we disagree about\u00a0(e.g. an opinion, goal, belief or resource)?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Listen<\/strong>\u00a0actively to each other\u2019s side. (See \u201cPurposeful listening\u201d practice.)<\/li>\n<li><strong>Clarify<\/strong>\u00a0using \u201cI\u201d messages and a calm tone.\n<ul>\n<li>Use eye contact.<\/li>\n<li>Tell the person: \u201cI have a problem\u2026\u201d<\/li>\n<li>Describe the problem or behaviour in a non-threatening way. \u202f\u201cWhen you do this\u2026I feel\u2026&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Tell the person how you feel about the problem. \u201cI feel\u2026\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Swap sides<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 think about the disagreement from both sides.\n<ul>\n<li>How would you feel? What would be important to you if you were the other person?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>Try to\u00a0<strong>stay calm<\/strong>\u00a0until you have a win\/win solution.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Adaptations-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneAdaptations-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneAdaptations-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Adaptations<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneAdaptations-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneAdaptations-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><ul>\n<li>Ask students to think about a time over the past week (or that day) when there was a difference of opinion or conflict and how they made use of the conflict resolution model.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='Evidence-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneEvidence-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneEvidence-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> Evidence<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneEvidence-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneEvidence-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Allowing students to practice understanding others\u2019 perspectives helps them regulate their emotions, so they can engage in healthy social dialogue (Eisenberg &amp; Fabes, 1995). Specifically modelling productive conversations about others\u2019 thoughts and emotions, is related to positive emotion during conflict, and reduced post-conflict distress (Randell &amp; Peterson, 2009).<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class='card'><div class='card-header' role='tab' id='References-0'><a data-toggle='collapse' data-parent='#accordion0' href='#collapseOneReferences-0' aria-expanded='false' aria-controls='collapseOneReferences-0'><h3 class='mb-0'><em class='fas fa-angle-down rotate-icon'><\/em> References<\/h3><\/a><\/div><div id='collapseOneReferences-0' class='collapse' role='tabpanel' aria-labelledby='collapseOneReferences-0' data-parent='#accordion0'><div class='card-body'><p>Eisenberg, N., &amp; Fabes, R. A. (1995). The relation of young children\u2019s vicarious emotional responding to social competence, regulation, and emotionality. Cognition and Emotion, 9(2-3), 203-228. doi:<a href=\"http:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1080\/02699939508409009\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">http:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1080\/02699939508409009<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Randell, A. C., &amp; Peterson, C. C. (2009). Affective qualities of sibling disputes, mothers\u2019 conflict attitudes, and children\u2019s theory of mind development. Social Development, 18(4), 857-874. doi:<a href=\"http:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1467-9507.2008.00513.x\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">http:\/\/dx.doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1467-9507.2008.00513.x<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To provide students with ways to find win\/win solutions when conflicts arise<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":843,"parent":653,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"practice-template.php","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,24,45,47,221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-842","page","type-page","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship-skills","category-intermediate","category-junior","category-primary","category-promote"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/842","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=842"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/842\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3085,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/842\/revisions\/3085"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/653"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/843"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=842"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=842"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smho-smso.ca\/emhc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=842"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}